Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Do All Good Things Eventually Come To An End? (2)


"The value one assigns to oneself or one's abilities in self-assessment." "The quality of being worthy of esteem or respect."

There is a difference between self-esteem and self-worth. Self-esteem fluctuates depending on what is happening to you at the time. If you are successful, you feel great, walking proud with your chest pumped out, but if you failed then you feel terrible walking with bowed head and droopy shoulders. Self-worth is what you are born with, and that cannot be taken from you but you can lose sight of it.In order to love others, we must acknowledge our value and love our selves. It doesn't matter what we may have accomplished in life, and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of us, we should above all love ourselves unconditionally. Each of us are the central character of our world, desiring to be the center of attention, recognized and respected while others revolve around us. Therefore,everything that happens to us through our own emotions, actions and thoughts is of great significance in playing a role in the growth and development of that world. In plain words we are fully responsible for whatever we think, say and do. We can choose to be happy or choose to be miserable. So make up your mind right now to choose to react to every situation and circumstance with poise. Focus your thoughts on relaxation, and less on stress and worry. Read some inspirational literature. Listen to calming music such as sounds of nature with subtle musical instruments in the background. Do some exercise, prayer, journal writing, even soaking in a hot tub, and most of all get plenty of rest? It may not take away the problem at hand, but it definitely will calm you down, keeping your energy and spirits high.

With regard to relationships....Do All Things Eventually Come To an End? I reiterate...not necessarily so!

If you pay close attention to the warning signs as well as the causes, you can get professional help in time to assist you in addressing these issues, and trying to reach a better level of mutual understanding and communication between you and your partner. One should seek therapy that focuses on the emotions, which will help reduce marital stress and psychological symptoms. When a person believes in their worthlessness, then they place themselves in a position of feeling powerless and afraid.. By openly talking about the pain, hurt and emotions that have been buried deep inside, it is a step toward emotional healing and improved self-worth. The process of therapy dealing with the emotions will help you reach that level of forgiveness of self, and forgiveness toward the partner who has hurt you. Therapy, anger management groups, and support groups and most of all if you are a believer, a trust in God , can help heal chronic anger, instilling hope for a better future. Hope is a spiritual gift from God. As the injured party comes to terms with himself or herself, and is released from negative and hostile feelings, the injured partner begins to grow emotionally stronger.

To be continued: (3)

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