Saturday, October 27, 2012

When Love comes Along by Gail Louise Norman Annes



When Love Comes Along
(inspired by: “When I Fall In Love”, sung by Nat King Cole)

Waiting for love
living day by day
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a lone heart longing for
someone to hold onto…
someone to dance with,
someone to live with,
someone to cuddle with,
someone to kiss with…
knowing there is someone
waiting for love too…
wanting a someone
to live each day through,
when love comes along
there is beauty all around,
a spring in your step,
the world is full of wonder…
two hearts bonded together
arms wrapped around each other
living the days out when one becomes two.

Gail Louise Norman Annes
October 26, 2012


Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Romancing the Age: A Sexual Revolution Part 2

by Miriam B. Medina

(Continue from Part I)

The Victorian Era (1837-1901) was a period of true passion, and offered striking expressions of love. The moonlight walks and whispered words of affection revealed a romantic love which was an essential element for marital success. Courting began to adopt a more precise and formal nature, especially amongst influential society.

Most of the courting would take place in the girl's home, under the eye of her watchful parents. Although having a chaperon was not widely practiced in the United States, at the end of the nineteenth century, notable aristocratic families demanded it, therefore, couples were never allowed to be alone with each other without the presence of a companion until their engagement. The chaperon, acting the part of the mother, accompanied her young lady everywhere, going with her to all the balls, dinners, and especially to the theater parties. All in her efforts to protect the naive girl from the dangers of being sexually exploited.

After the Civil War, the presence of a chaperon began to decline, and the young 19th century couples were able to enjoy their moments of intimacy without supervision. This was acceptable in the northern part of America, but not so in the South. Marriage was the ultimate goal for the young ladies of high society in the South. The gentlemen viewed marriage as a business deal, a commodity to be gained, which he would use to his fullest benefit. In order to ensure that the marriage would be a worthwhile investment for both, bank accounts and familial lineages were to be presented as a preliminary requirement to courtship approval. Few of these marriages ever started with love, and as the years went by, many of the couples would become quite fond of each other, which sometimes resulted in a strong bond, almost as powerful as love.

In the later part of the 19th century, same-sex relationships flourished. Casual romantic liaisons existed between unmarried women, especially among female college students.

The 20th century erupted with a forceful roar, pulverizing previous sex standards and patterns, with respect to American courtship norms, while introducing a modern understanding of sexual freedom and the nature of life among women and young people. America's social scene was changing at a rapid pace, especially in the 1920's. It was a remarkable, dramatic era in all aspects. The economy was in an upswing after World War I; there was uncontrollable wasteful spending and massive profiteering. The automobile was one of the leading consumer products of the 1920's. It was a decade distinguished by creative people and their famous works, and their dangerous. Sinclair Lewis, Ernest Hemingway, F. Scott Fitzgerald. Etc., they all lived large and fast and wrote sorrowful, poignant tales, so true to life. Gangsterism was dominant, with its fast cars, machine guns, prostitution, and gambling, bootleg booze and corrupt officials. It was a decade granting full woman suffrage in all states of the U.S.

It was also the start of the Harlem Renaissance.

Most importantly, it was the decade of the revolutionary Flapper girl, throwing off her chains of restriction, demanding sexual and personal liberation. She was the original free spirit, the modern woman, who smoked in public, lived on her own, voted, drank booze with the boys, danced, and bobbed her hair. She also wore cosmetics, painted her lips bright red, and went to wild petting parties where she was sexually promiscuous. The Flapper defied all the rules of acceptable feminine behavior, God bless her. She rebelled against corsets by flattening her chest with strips of cloth, giving herself a boyish look.

Courtship or dating began to change with the 1920s. Kissing and fondling were no longer preliminaries to marriage, but indulgent for fun and pleasure. By the 1920s, girls were known to say "they were going all the way, and men were already calling condoms rubbers. "There was little regard for parental consent. Necking and petting were major factors in the courtship or dating trend.
Necking involved, passionate caresses to the neck, lips and ears, leaving visible red marks, called "hickies." Petting involved other sexual sensitive areas of the body, although fully clothed. The romanticism of courtship was now replaced by the act of instant gratification. Dating eventually would lead to substantial intimacies for some couples. So while nice boys and girls were courting, others were having sex.

The 40's and 50's exhibited a greater aspect of sexual intimacy. After World War II, there were many job opportunities resulting from economic prosperity. This allowed the men to earn and spend more. So when a man asked a girl out on a date, he would end up paying for the entertainment, refreshments and transportation. Naturally the more he spent on his date, the more he expected as a return on his investment, so he treated her like a commodity. With the 60's came the accessibility of the birth control pill, sexual changes, and the Stonewall Police Riot in 1969. This was not only the true turning point for the gay rights movement, but, was the emergence of a new concept of gay identity known as: "Gay Pride versus the closet."

Thus the sexual revolution began. Women stood up for their rights. Minorities stood up for their rights. Gays stood up for their rights. Peaceful protesters were killed at Universities. It was awkward, but people stood up for their rights.

It's funny adolescence is awkward, but that's where you discover your sexuality. Nonetheless, the protests in the 60's were awkward. Perhaps that was America discovering its sexuality; feeling its oats after 200 years.

And here we sit now, waiting for some great ideal, the American Dream maybe, to show up and buy us a drink for our efforts.

But maybe the American Dream is a deadbeat, or it's Santa Clause... Or maybe it's not some thing that's going to save us from ourselves.

Maybe it's us, waiting at the bar, expecting some great payoff for a sexual revolution begun nearly 300 years ago, a revolution that isn't finished, that's waiting for you and I to bring it home.

You know what; I think this round is on me.

Now it's your turn,

Let's make this an America we can all enjoy.

Oh, and tip the bartender, he's kept us happy for over 234 years!
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Romancing The Age: A Sexual Revolution Part I

By Miriam B. Medina

Do you remember the first time you went on a date or experienced your first passionate kiss? Did you appreciate the pleasurable and romantic aspect of it?

While today's provocative presentation of sensuous love-making in the media leaves little to the imagination, it is amusing to learn how the early days of courtship were displayed in the New World and how they evolved in Modern America.

During colonial times, courtship and marriage added a touch of romance to the wilderness. For example, a young, robust man in his early twenties, after spending an enormous amount of time in the wilderness, might amass a small fortune from the sale of his furs. Satisfied with his venture, he returned to his village, ready to buy land, and find a fledgling maiden with whom he might settle down. This was not difficult, since the village was small and the inhabitants that lived there were either related or closely acquainted. With money in hand, the young man promised a secure future for someone's daughter.

As the young man walked about the village, his eyes swept over the sun warmed land he wished to purchase. Suddenly a young maiden, whom he had not seen before, emerged from one of the nearby houses, distracting him. He was instantly smitten by her, by her tall, slender figure and ravishing beauty. As much as he resisted, his eyes kept wandering back to her. She sensed the strength of his gaze, turned her head and their eyes locked.

There he stood in front of her, displaying a bright, friendly smile, wavy brown hair just at his shoulders and that muscular physique. She found him to be irresistible, which made her heart begin to pound, her cheeks flushed to a rosy color. The young swain determined to win her affection and make her his wife, approached the young maiden, proclaiming his love and his intentions with her.

Although parental authoritarianism existed during the colonial days, when it came to falling in love, the young maidens would exert considerable independence. She liked what she saw, and was just as determined as he was. She asked him to meet her parents. This was an English custom that prevailed throughout the colonies, which the approval of the parents should be obtained before the courtship would continue. The continuation of Courtship led to marriage and children.

Since the houses were small in the village, the fireplace and kitchen seemed to be the nucleus of family life. The pride of the house would be the dominant four-posted family bedstead. At the fireplace, where everyone would gather to feel its warmth, especially in the winter, the master of the house would smoke his pipe, tell stories, or read from the old Bible. Although it was alleged that couples in courtship would have the benefit of a six-foot long wooden tube, called a "courting stick," so they could whisper sweet nothings to each other under the careful observation of the parents, "bundling" was the rage of those times. It was an English custom practiced in Colonial America during the 1600's, rampant all along the Atlantic coast. The practice of this custom was also used by the Dutch, and would be limited to wintertime.

Bundling allowed the courting couples to get into bed together, fully clothed, except for their shoes. A quilt or blanket would be tied over the girl's legs. A bundling board would be placed between the courting couple as a precautionary measure by the careful parents. This allowed the couple to have their privacy, they could engage in a dialogue, friendly kissing, and fondling one another in the warmth and safe confines of the girl's family home, always under the mother's watchful eyes, ensuring that no sexual intercourse would take place. Because it was so cold in the small colonial houses, this was the only way the couple could keep warm, and at the same time, have some sort of privacy, even though the girl's family would also be in the same room, clustered around the fireplace.

Part 2 of Romancing the Age.
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Sunday, October 14, 2012

Welcome to the Sad Sack Whiner's Hall of Fame Part 2 of 2

By Miriam B. Medina (Expert author at Diamond Level at Ezinearticles.com)
In part one of this two-part series, we discussed the ways that a negative outlook can affect your life. Being a pessimist, or a sad sack, can change the way you approach life, can make you feel like you've lost before the game is even played. By approaching life with a strong, positive mental base, you can improve your life, no matter what the circumstances are, and you can avoid entering the "Sad Sack Whiner's Hall of Fame."

Before going any further, hand over that huge bag of past failures, bad experiences and crushed expectations that you are carrying. It is holding you back, keeping you from moving forward. I keep a special bin for my baggage, and I leave it there. Less baggage means I can travel lighter, and I can go much further in life at a much quicker pace.

Now that we got that out-of-the-way, can you lend me your ear for a few moments so I can show you how to clear out the negative mental debris in order to replace it with a more appropriate, more effective mental attitude? For example, you can learn how to convert all of your setbacks, turning them into opportunities, reinforcing your values and living your life in the most positive way that you can. So let's start by developing a positive approach to life and move forward from there.

The opposite of a Sad Sack is a person with a Positive Mental Attitude. People who possess a PMA are easily spotted, just like Sad Sacks. They stand tall with their shoulders thrust back and their chest expanded. They have a brisk walk with an air of self-confidence. Optimistic people are wonderful role models. They know how to manage their emotions, how to deal effectively with stress, anger and fear. Positive minded individuals find a high-stress life exciting and challenging, because they have the resilience to bounce back from stress.

They are more flexible in coping with different circumstances. They are motivated to take a positive view of the situation to see how they can either improve or correct their problems. They not only look for the good in every situation and find opportunities inside every problem, they build harmonious relationships with loved ones and coworkers. One outstanding characteristic of a person with a Positive Mental Attitude is that they do not fear failure because they never expect to fail. They never give up until they see their dreams and goals come to fruition. They are not hindered by self-imposed limitations. Their mind transcends limitations and their consciousness expands in every direction. These individuals have learned the secret of uncovering the hidden talents that exist within them. The optimistic person understands his or her true purpose in life. This is why their choices become much clearer and why they experience less chaos and confusion. They trust their choices, weighing all the pros and cons related to them, considering the consequences and deciding which action will result in a better return for them. Then they take the plunge by moving forward with a burning desire to win or perish with their decision.

The person that possesses a Positive Mental Attitude finds a way in which he or she will best serve the world. How different is this person from the negative person? The Sad Sack will make it his or her duty to remain unhappy, focusing only on the negative aspects of life. The consequences of where both of these individuals are and what they have is based on the choices and decisions that they have made. The resulting consequences and the views of these consequences differ because of the different attitudes these two types of people possess. To the person with a PMA, every victory is glorious, and every setback is an opportunity. To the Sad Sack, every victory is a burden laden with another shoe waiting to drop, and every loss is devastating.

Changing your attitude isn't easy. Change doesn't happen overnight. You have to take it one step at a time on a daily basis. It means establishing a mind-training regimented program in which negative destructive thoughts are replaced by constructive ones. You don't have to hurry the process along, changing your way of thinking isn't easy, just walk at your own pace, and little by little you will begin to see the difference.

Here are a few suggestions that will help remove you from being inducted into the Sad Sack Whiner's Hall of Fame.

1. Be a Volunteer: That means take the focus off you and place it on someone else. The side effects of volunteering help you to not only feel better emotionally, physically and psychologically, but also builds up your self-worth, self-esteem and your self-confidence. It's great for relieving stress and anxiety.

2. Focus on Creative Visualization: When you are fearful your limitless potential becomes restricted by self-limitations. Did you know that you have hidden deep within yourself an amazing and inexhaustible source of innovative ideas, a fountain of creativity waiting for you to drink from it? So how does Creative Visualization work? The secret to this is that you need to think big enough to get past today, or big enough to see where you could go and what you can be part of. You need to expect and accept only the best in your life, and the only way to do this is to start with the creativity that you have within you, taking advantage of the opportunities that surround you. Move forward from there.

3. Change your Thought Patterns: The more you dwell on any difficulty, the more you will amplify it and the harder it will be to get out from under it, which will leave you depressed. However, if you have a positive attitude you will stop feeling depressed. There is nothing like waking up each day feeling good about yourself and expecting incredible things to happen. All you have to do is reverse your negative outlook on life and your outer experiences will change as well.

4. Recapture Desire: It is said that desire is the driving force that motivates one to achieve the attainment or possession of something that is within reach. It is also this achieving motivation that gives power to all human action, without it, one cannot go far. You need to stop being confined to your small world and raise yourself above and beyond your current situation in order to make changes, to improve your situation and to move forward.

5. Analyze Yourself Honestly: First, you need to figure out what you want in life, then you have to identify your strengths and weaknesses that will help you get to or that stand between you and your noteworthy achievement. In this way, you will know what areas of your life need improvement in order to make things happen in a positive way

I reiterate, get out of that dismal Sad Sack rut you are in. Live in the most positive way that you can and most of all feel good about your life at last. There are already too many inductees in the Sad Sack Whiner's Hall of Fame. You don't want to make an induction in that downtrodden Hall your life's achievement. You want to enjoy life. You want to accomplish things. You want the world to be your oyster, and it can be, as long as you know there's a pearl inside the shell. You simply have to figure out how to open that shell to get your pearl, but in the end, the effort is worth what you will get out of life.
Miriam B. Medina is a successful website administrator and writer. She is a strong woman with a Positive Mental Attitude who has overcome her bitter past to lead a better, more peaceful life. She invites you to share her worthwhile thoughts at: http://mimispeaks.blogspot.com/2011/11/table-of-contents-4a-positive-thinking.html

Anyone who wants to develop or improve a positive mental attitude or who wants to overcome depression or is simply seeking happiness should take advantage of Miriam's work, but she loves to write, so get yourself a hot cup of coffee and a comfortable chair.
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Welcome To The Sad Sack Whiner's Hall of Fame Part I of 2

By Miriam B. Medina(Expert Author at Diamond Level at Ezinearticles.com)

Judging by the title, this is certainly not the best way to start your day. Quite a negative thought, isn't it? Nonetheless, doesn't the title speak to the way you've been living your life?

How is that? Please come again?

Well, first and foremost, let me start off by saying that sad sacks are habitual complainers. Wherever they go, the atmosphere completely changes. They're easily spotted with their drooped shoulders, their shuffled walk, their expressionless faces, their averted eyes and their sagging chins. They spend their days hunched over, forever carrying baggage from all sorts of little upsets, imparting negative vibrations to everyone they meet. Because they're always so immersed in their current difficulties and never-ending problems, people do their best to avoid these Sad Sacks. Their constant complaining aggravates everyone within listening range. These individuals have no sense of direction in life, and no matter where they are, they are always unhappy. So they find themselves raging against fate, though it is their own choices and actions that create their unhappy environment. It's true, you reap what you sow. Sad Sacks forever bemoan their pasts, whining about the present and remaining ever fearful of the future. As a result of this negative attitude, their outlook on life is so limited that they can't visualize the opportunities and the wondrous possibilities that may come their way. They prefer to wallow in their dismal rut and to whine.

A steady flow of negative thoughts consume them, such as:

"You know what; No matter how hard I try to get ahead, I always end up with the short end of the stick."
"How come he got the promotion when I've been here longer and am better qualified?"
"Why, especially now, when I don't have the money, did this opportunity have to come?"
"How in the world am I supposed to achieve anything when I have so much on my plate?"
They allow the "woe is me" victim's role to dominate them, often causing unfavorable conditions to continue for them. Without a doubt, like will always attract like, because that is the Law of Attraction.

I understand that there are times when you feel like you're drowning in your own problems, choking, gasping for air, unable to shout out or call for help. Sure, not seeing your expectations materialized is a terrible, crushing blow to your self-esteem. Of course it hurts. It is horrendously stressful to live like that. Even misfortunes that are suddenly thrust upon us can trigger emotions that have the ability to revolutionize the way we live and relate to others. Though unpleasant circumstances can culminate in "Hard Times" for any individual, the danger here is that the more disappointments in life an individual encounters along the way, the more they will eventually believe that life is against them. Negative minded people have poor coping skills. This is why they are vulnerable to stress. The slightest problem crushes their self-esteem, killing confidence in their ability to cope with issues. As a result, they begin to cultivate the "woe is me" victim's mentality, which eventually will earn them their rightful place as an inductee into the "Sad Sack Whiner's Hall of Fame."

However, it's best not to play the victim in as much as your destiny has not already been written. You write it yourself. Each and every life is an autobiography to be written by its author, it is not a biography written beforehand by someone else. There is hope, a light at the end of the tunnel, so please don't throw in the towel yet and call it quits. Each story is different, and you can't change your story, but you can control how you react to your story as it unfolds, and you can help change the outcome in a positive or negative way.
In part two of this two-part series, we'll discuss ways that you can learn to positively face challenges so that you can avoid the "Sad Sack Whiner's Hall of Fame."
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Miriam B. Medina is a successful website administrator and writer. She is a strong woman with a Positive Mental Attitude who has overcome her bitter past to lead a better, more peaceful life. She invites you to share her worthwhile thoughts at: http://mimispeaks.blogspot.com/2011/11/table-of-contents-4a-positive-thinking.html

Anyone who wants to develop or improve a positive mental attitude or who wants to overcome depression or is simply seeking happiness should take advantage of Miriam's work, but she loves to write, so get yourself a hot cup of coffee and a comfortable chair.
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America, Our America

By Miriam B. Medina ( expert author at Diamond Level at Ezinearticles.com)



America the Beautiful, America the Brave, America the Melting Pot, America has been described as all of these things, but which epitaph best describes this great country? Ask any immigrant who has made his or her way here, greeting the Statue of Liberty with cries of joy, and they'd likely tell you that The United States is the land of the free, the home of the brave, the most beautiful site they ever saw, simply because it is the Great Melting Pot.

How many immigrants struggled to reach the shores of the United States, to find their American Dream, huddled aboard the deck of a ship, packed like sardines with so many others just like themselves? Different people and different families from disparate regions and different countries, all with one common goal, one thought in mind. Let me reach the shores of the United States where I will find opportunity, where I can build a better life for myself and my family, where I can pursue liberty and freedom. While every immigrant has a different story and takes a different path to America, there is a single reason that so many people have struggled to reach these hallowed shores for so long, and that reason is what makes this country so unique and so great.

The United States is and has been an asylum for millions of people who have suffered around the world, at the hands of their own governments, at the hands of oppressors, and at the hands of cruel fate and hardship. It is fitting that the United States greets so many immigrants at Ellis Island in New York with the grand sight of the Statue of Liberty waiting in the mouth of the New York Harbor, a welcome sight for weary eyes, because America itself has always been a safe harbor in an endless storm of global uncertainty.

But why do they come HERE and how does this make America so great? James Truslow Adams coined the phrase "The American Dream" in the 1931 novel, Epic of America. This term has come to symbolize the ideals of freedom, democracy, opportunity, and the potential to realize material comfort. While we native Americans take our liberties and opportunities for granted, even with a sense of entitlement in this day and age, to many people around the world who have suffered at the hands of tyranny, it offers all that they could ever hope for, a chance. America has come to represent hope to many who simply want a chance to succeed. Through great effort and often under much duress, millions of people have found their way to the shores of America, perhaps not so much to realize the American Dream, but to simply have a chance at realizing it. They come here not so much looking for easy street, but looking for a fair opportunity to earn a better life, and that has been key to the greatness of America over the years.

We're not a perfect nation, and we've had plenty of trials and tribulations over the years, but as a nation, we persevere and we prevail, for the very reason we attract so many people, because we're free to be who we are, therefore we are diverse. It is our diversity and our desire to be ourselves that unites us with such a strong common bond. We are now a nation made of many great cultures, of many great ideals and religions, and it is this diversity and sense of earned liberty, provided to us by our forefathers and all of the immigrants that have united here to build this great nation, that gives us the strength to prosper and grow. That's why I believe we, as a nation, can get though any crisis, we always have before, and we'll get through this current fiscal crisis that we face now.

We are the land of the free, the home of the brave, and we are the Melting Pot, when we lose sight of that fact from time, all we need do is look at that great lady standing tall above the New York Harbor, as so many of our ancestors have done before us and as so many new Americans still do today. She's still a sight for sore eyes, still the embodiment of hope and freedom, still the symbol of the American Dream, and she'll stand strong and remind the world of this fact for many years to come.
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Miriam Medina, a member of the New York Historical Society and National Council for History Education is website manager, researcher and historian with 14 years of experience. The History Box has proven to be invaluable to denizens of various prestigious educational institutions, writers, historians, researchers and scholars worldwide. If you wish to find out more about New York City's early immigrant history, please visit
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http://thehistorybox.com/ny_city/immigration_nycity.htm
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When You Love A Child Get Involved

By Miriam B. Medina (expert author at Diamond Level at Ezinearticles.com)

What in the world could be more valuable than a child? They are our future, our treasure, and our present responsibilities. What is the old saying, "It takes a village to raise a child?" Too many people forget that too much of the time. I understand. Life can be hectic. It's a rat race out there. The economy sucks. Work is a pain. The old ball and chain can be a hassle.

But none of that matters to a child, and what does it matter 30 years from now if you're late on a bill this week or month? What does it matter, on the other hand, 30 years from now, if you're late giving the child guidance when they need it or affection when they require it?

A late bill means you pay a late fee, or you have some momentary stress with which to deal. A pink slip at work means that you get a new job or collect unemployment momentarily. However, screw up with a child then the damage can be permanent, and can have ramifications for generations. You don't even have to go to extreme instances of ignored or hurt children like Columbine. How many kids today grow up to develop addictions or poor relationship skills.

Who wants their child to grow up to be miserable?

So how do we properly raise our children? What can we do for them? What's the answer? There's no stock answer, but we start by spending some quality time with what should be the most valuable things in our lives, our kids. A hug now and then doesn't hurt either.

Kids are fairly easy to figure out. They need attention, reassurance, and guidance. They also need to be educated and taught. All of this can only be accomplished with time, love and attention.

Many parents set themselves up for serious disappointments with high expectations. Too often, parents have lofty expectations for their children and then do little to help their kids meet those expectations. They demand straight A's on report cards but don't help them study, make school fun for their kids or make sure they do their homework. They insist that kids do their chores and keep their room immaculate. Nonetheless, they don't follow-up on them or take care of their own chores. They set goals for kids that they wanted to achieve but never did. "My son will play baseball and be a star' or 'My daughter will be a beauty queen or a Doctor."
Yet they never bother to ask the child if they have any interest in such endeavors, they simply throw their child into a starring role in their own dreams. To nurture and raise our children properly, we must meet them, learn who they are, come to understand them and help them to meet their own goals. You have to get involved with your child, not get your child involved in your dreams or your problems.

The greatest cure for a child's stress or problems is a hug, a game played with Mom or Dad, or some simple quality family time. However, too often in today's world, our children are catapulted into adulthood with little or no preparation, and too much exposure to adult problems like drug abuse, physical and mental abuse and alcoholism, drug abuse and substance abuse by young adults has been a serious problem in America in particular for many years. President Regan and his First Lady, Nancy Reagan, instituted a policy called "Just Say No" in the early 1980's to help combat this issue, so this is not a new problem. Substance abuse at an early age can ruin a child's entire life. In many cases if not most cases, substance abuse starts in the home.
This doesn't mean that every teen with a substance abuse problem has a parent with a drug abuse problem, though that is often the case. Young adults with seemingly normal families, with parents who don't have a substance abuse problem can still get hooked on drugs or can be afflicted by alcoholism at an early age. Why? Because parents, once again, often don't talk TO their children, they talk at or around them.

The best way to raise a child is to get involved with their lives. By doing that, we affect every decision that they make in a positive way. This doesn't mean yell at them or keep on them or ride them, so you feel that you're fulfilling the job of a parent. You have to be a parent, and a friend, and a mentor. You can only do this if you can talk to your children. If you can listen to them, understand them, and RELATE to them, not simply tell them what they must do.

Enjoy your children and remember that you still need to instill discipline in them and you and your child will be all right. Make no mistake, this isn't easy. It's a fine line that has to be traveled, and it takes a great deal of effort, but what in the world could be worth more effort than a child?

Play games with them, read books to and with them, discuss what they watch and what they do, and without being a dictator, explain to them what is acceptable for them and what is unacceptable for them so as they grow, they will learn how to make sound decisions for themselves. After all, that is our job as parents, it's not to make decisions FOR them, but to teach them how to make smart decisions for themselves, so we can trust them to do so as they enter the world on their own, because sooner or later, they will.

The only way that we can do that is by learning who our kids are. With time, effort, devotion, and unconditional love, we can perform our most valuable function in life; we can be loving parents and role models for our children to follow. What on Earth could be more rewarding than that?
Miriam B. Medina is a successful website administrator and writer. She is a strong woman with a Positive Mental Attitude who believes that you can turn your life around to be a more caring and positive minded individual which will not only make your life more fulfilling but it will also improve your parent/child relationship. She invites you to share her worthwhile, positive thoughts at: http://mimispeaks.blogspot.com/2011/11/table-of-contents-4a-positive-thinking.html
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Sunday, October 7, 2012

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GETTING TO KNOW MIMI


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A TASTE OF THE PAST: ITALIAN HARLEM
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A BACKWARD GLANCE AT EAST HARLEM
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TENEMENT LIVING: SOCIAL ISSUES OF URBAN LIFE
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NEW YORK CITY HISTORY
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JEWISH KNOWLEDGE, HISTORICAL FACTS ON ENGLAND &UNITED STATES
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POSITIVE THINKING AND SELF-IMPROVEMENT
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ARTSWORKS AND ENTERTAINMENT
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ARCHITECTURE
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EDUCATION
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WISDOM: THOUGHTS FROM THE INDIAN MASTERS
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UNDERSTANDING MUSIC


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" THE INTERNATIONAL CORNER"

 
Artist Alessandro Sannino

ITALIAN ARTISTS IN ITALY

"Every artist dips his brush in his own soul, and paints his own nature into his pictures...". -Henry Ward Beecher

ITALIAN ARTIST:  AURELIO PERNICHE

Sicilian Artist: Aurelio Pernice known as " Aurè "
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ITALIAN ARTISTS IN ITALY

ROMEO CUOMO
Artist of Hand Painted Tiles and Ceramics




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El Rincón En Español (The Spanish Corner: )
This section is dedicated to articles of historical facts, poetry, self-improvement, human interest stories etc. written in Spanish.
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"El Rincón Borinqueña"(Puerto Rico)
The Italian Niche
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Brusciano, Italy News/Events (In Italian)
Brusciano, Italy News/Events ( In English)
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John J. Burkard (Brooklyn, New York)
Red Hook, Reflections on History
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Dr. Antonio Castaldo (Brusciano, Italy)
Thoughts of an Italian Writer: A. Castaldo (In English)
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Pensieri di uno scrittore italiano: dott. Antonio Castaldo
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Michael Walsh ( Australia)
Poetic Purveyor (Facebook)
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Miriam B. Medina (Diamond Author at Ezinearticles.com)
Published Articles On Blog


POETRY BY MIRIAM B. MEDINA
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