Monday, February 11, 2008

Beyond The Extraordinary Moment (2)

Optimistic people have learned how to control their emotions, in dealing effectively with stress, anger and anxiety. They look for good in every situation, find opportunities in every problem, thus becoming more flexible in coping with different circumstances as well as having harmonious relationships with loved ones and co-workers. For the optimistic person, who is happy and well adjusted, memories will only yield abundant treasures. Whereas the pessimistic person only looks at the negative aspects of life, making it his or her business to be unhappy. They are constantly complaining about this and that, thus attracting more of the same into their lives. The consequences of where both of these individuals are and what they have is based on the choices and decisions which they have made "beyond the extraordinary moment.”.

People can be happy if they make up their minds to be so. The optimistic person attracts happiness, while the pessimistic person will repel it. The home is where the greater part of our life is spent with our families. This dwelling that was intended to be a place of sharing extraordinary moments of love and happiness, sadly for some, has become a battlefield of hostility and antagonistic thoughts, where its residents do not benefit from harmonious relationships. Spouses are in conflict with each other.Children are in constant conflict with their parents. In some cases, the element of force and control is apparent through verbal, mental and physical abuse, whereas in others, behavior patterns and manner of thinking that are similar, you will find encounters. Children who come from a highly stressful home environment are inundated by it, which doesn't give them a chance to deal with their own emotions. Parents, who are always in conflict, can't be a role model to their children if they themselves have not learned how to use the skills of emotional intelligence.

Many parents set themselves up for disappointment, with expectations which they want their children to respond to, failing to realize that their child's personality is different from theirs as well as having hopes and dreams of their own, thus contributing to the problems and conflicts between them...

To be continued: Beyond The Extraordinary Moment (3)

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